You know how everyone talks about how guys are so much better in college/uni than in high school? How you’ll find a guy once you go off to college? Okay, well maybe not everyone says that, but I have heard it a lot, both on TV and in real life.

I’ve been a university student for five weeks now, and I have to say it’s all talk. Really, it is.

My school isn’t small. There are over 40 thousand students at my school, almost 30 thousand of which are undergraduates, like me. I trek all across campus to go to my classes and to work, and I see new people every day. In my entire five weeks here, I have yet to see even one drool-worthy guy. Not one.

Sure, there are plenty of not unattractive guys. Hell, there are plenty of attractive guys. I just haven’t run into a single one that made me think, “I WANT.”

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not one to date solely on looks. One look at two of my past boyfriends will tell you that much. But is a little eye candy too much to ask while I’m still enjoying the single life?

And on that note, Audrey, I’d say the single life is definitely overrated if you’re in a candy-less situation like mine.

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Last night, I had a really great conversation with my friend Adam. I mentioned on my about page that “I find that I can talk to him about a lot of things.”

Well, let me tell you something about me and Adam. Adam and I share what is probably the coolest friendship in the history of the world. Adam thinks it’s because we’ve dated in the past, so all that sexual tension is just gone. Poof. As he put it, we can talk about anything at all without him thinking “I want to do her.” It’s pretty damn cool.

Many of our conversations end up revolving around sex. It’s ironic because as a couple, we never got farther than cuddling and making out. There weren’t any opportunities for anything else.

I think everyone needs that friend they can talk to about anything, and even more so when it comes to talking about sexual themes. Someone who is open-minded, won’t judge, and contributes with his or her own thoughts and experiences about sex. And there has to be trust. No worrying about if said friend will turn around and repeat what you just said to everyone he or she knows. Adam is one of those friends for me. I don’t know why I can trust him so much more than the rest of my friends, or why these things are so much easier to talk about with him, but I’m not complaining.

Last night, we covered a lot of sexual topics. We talked about hooking up, hand jobs, bras… the list goes on and on. Over the course of it all, I ended up telling him something that I had never told anyone in my life. It was something that had been in the back of my mind for a while, but that didn’t become explicitly clear to me until I talked with him last night. Don’t get too excited; I’m not going to publish it here. It’s not something that even needs to be said, but telling it to Adam helped me to be a lot more honest in our conversation.

I was actually so astounded by the conversation we had last night that I kept thinking about it again throughout the day today. It’s not that I haven’t had such conversations with him (or others) before, but it reminded me just how much I can trust him and how much I open up when I talk with him.

What I think I’m trying to say is that I’m grateful to have a friend like Adam, and I’m glad I didn’t just throw away our friendship after we stopped dating. Who says two people can’t stay friends after breaking up? Not me.

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